Not complaining is a kind of “realm”
Complaints are the most common source of human stress.
No one is exceptional!
Even if the level of complaint has not caused significant pressure and tension, the process will subtly affect our thoughts and behavior from time to time.
It is no exaggeration to say that complaints are the source of negative interactions between people. They are often associated with depression, stimuli, and negative emotional states such as anxiety, depression, and hostility.
In fact, the probability of a complaint in an unsound family is much higher than that of a healthy family. Of course, excessive complaints often occur in a healthy family.
Therefore, some people even think of suicide in order to avoid complaints and shame, but this still cannot solve the problem. Complaint is a universal social phenomenon, which runs through people’s lives, just like fibers are everywhere in the rope.
We are currently living in a culture of complaints, and our thoughts, feelings, and practices are often affected by complaints, quarrels, nitpicking, and criticism.
When there is an error, the first reaction of most of us is “Who should complain?”
Complaints are so common in our lives that we have become accustomed to it.
In fact, complaints have long penetrated into every aspect of modern social culture.
銆€銆€We may not have “complaining genes,” but humans do have a habit of complaining.
By reaching out to people with different life experiences, I find that everyone actually has a complaint experience that is extremely dissatisfied.
Their stories involve memories of past events, relationships, and conflicts with bosses or neighborhoods.
Some people are excited when they think of chattering parents criticizing them.
People complain that people around are good at making excuses.
Some extremely critical people have narrow visions and do not admit that their criticism has not helped solve the conflict they face every day.
銆€銆€In fact, anyone can learn, nurture and gradually improve self-confidence, take a positive and positive attitude towards others, and finally stay away from the trouble of complaining.
If you choose to do this, then please take a look at me to complain about the circumstances under which the complaint is justified and under what circumstances it is wrong.
You will find that while adhering to your own reasonable beliefs, there are ways to understand the opinions of others and thus improve the relationship between people.
Let us explore the positive factors that can replace complaints, pursue the truth, and enhance the inner energy.
銆€銆€Through this process, you will no longer look at the complaints of the past.
銆€銆€The idea of over-complaining is a precursor to the deterioration of the relationship, and sometimes even provokes violence.
This practice of expanding complaints, finding errors, complaining about others, false accusations, criticism, grievances, self-deprecation, and erroneous self-exclusion reflects the dark side of human relationships.
It is a naive optimism to believe that human beings will throw away this bad side forever.
However, as individuals, people are able to gradually approach this goal.
銆€銆€The subtle and profound lessons of history make it easier to complain than to understand and correct.
We can’t change history, but anyone with purpose and thought can come out of this kind of complaints and mistakes, constantly accepting the idea that people guide actions based on their reasoning, and the result of action ispositive.
銆€銆€Human intelligence is a tool for engaging and distinguishing between effective and self-destructive actions, and a tool for pointing out the direction of reasonable action.
These efforts will increase your chances of taking action that will enable people to enjoy a broader range of positive emotions, as well as a richer and more spontaneous, creative and challenging life.